I am a millennial mompreneur. I have a 4-year old, and I am a single co-parent. A few weeks ago, I co-hosted an event for entrepreneurial moms. One where they could bring their daughters (start the networking young!). There was a mix of millennial moms in their twenties and older moms in their late 30’s and up with daughters ages ranging from 3-16. So, we had quite the variety. I say all this to say, regardless of the difference in ages, backgrounds, and industries, we all shared some similar challenges — managing our time, “turning off”, and getting over guilt. We vented, we laughed, and we talked about our issues.
What I know about time management was reinforced during the event — and that’s that it can be addressed in a million different ways. But one thing is for sure, you can throw “balance” out of the window. It doesn’t exist. But it’s also nothing to cry over. Today we may be ultra-productive with our work duties and tomorrow we may get nothing done. It’s okay. What matters is that you keep moving and keep improving. Try different methods until you find what works for you (and even that may change). It won’t be perfect, and you likely won’t stick to your methods 100%, 100% of the time, but again, that’s okay. Life goes on, and you can try again tomorrow.
Staying Plugged In and Turned On
This I’m sure is an issue for more than just us moms. With just about everything being accessible right at our fingertips, it’s hard to just PUT. THE PHONE. DOWN. Or tablet, or any other mobile device. And it’s not just about unplugging digitally, but it’s also about unplugging from thinking about work. As a fellow entrepreneur and creative mind, I get it. We are always onto the next idea before the current one even wraps up, not to mention we want to see it flourish instantly. So we think about it constantly — along with what’s for dinner and “oh, I need to schedule a dental cleaning for my little one.” The thoughts are never ending, but your mind does need a break, and you do need sleep. Otherwise, kiss your sanity goodbye.
This is a big one…undoubtedly caused by the above two issues. This is where our mommy hats really come on. We tend to feel guilty when we work hard. Work too hard, really. We feel guilty because the time that we are working could be spent with our children. Technically speaking, it could be. But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t work as hard as you do to paint that big picture you have in your head. Your children notice and though they may not fully understand it now, they will in the future and they will love you even more for it. As long as you ARE making time to make memories with them, don’t feel guilty about the times when you’re not because you’re working to build them a brighter future.
The bottom line is, we’re not perfect. And that’s okay because no one is and no one ever will be. Perfection is just an illusion that boxes you into self-destruction. Break free. And let’s teach our kids to do the same.