Your once worthwhile relationship is not what it used to be. What now? Do you just let it go or do you try to get it back. If you’re missing that relationship and think it will be worth it, go get it back. I can’t guarantee the results, but I can offer some advice on what to do.
Assess the Situation
Is your relationship just in breakdown mode, or was it terminated? If it’s in breakdown mode that means the routine you once had is broken and communication is not up to par about it. If the relationship was terminated that means support, routine, and trust has been lost. Figure out what happened before you move forward.
Plan for the Future
What do you want the relationship to look like once (if) it’s repaired? You’ll have to accept that it may not return to what it once was. Decide what you are willing to compromise on and visualize what you want the repaired relationship to look like.
Acknowledge the Issue
When you finally get that time to talk, you’ll have to address what caused the breakdown or termination in the first place. It might not be the easiest conversation, but it has to be had in order to move on and rebuild. It holds people accountable and lessens the likelihood that it will happen again.
Make a Commitment
After you make it through acknowledgement, you will both have to make a commitment to rebuild. The more clearly defined what that commitment looks like, the better.
Stick to the plan and keep communication lines open.
With all this said, there’s something you should remember: not all worthwhile relationships will be worthwhile forever. Sometimes we outgrow relationships and people, so if the relationship can’t be rebuilt, don’t beat yourself up. Save your energy for another one.