Let’s cut straight to chase. Everyone is valuable, but if they are weighing you down and holding you back, it’s time to let them go. They can be valuable to someone else. Maybe down the road, you will meet again and can be valuable to each other, but for now, here are the three people you need to drop immediately.
The Negative Nancy
We all know this lady. For whatever reason, she always has something negative to say, even about the most positive situation. She gives backhanded compliments like “They needed to fill that quota, so they hired you…congrats!” Every time she calls, it’s likely negative gossip about someone else. You don’t need that. You are a brilliant Passionista, who spends her time uplifting others and chasing your dream. Negativity is a vibe killer and time waster. Cross her out of your little black book and program her in your phone under Do Not Call/Answer.
The Mooching Mary
Moochers are sometimes hard to spot because they can be clever. They take, take, take and rarely ever give. You may not notice because overall they are usually pretty personable, and you have good conversations, but really they stick around for one or a few things — usually referrals and free information. The frequency of their ask varies, so beware. Networking and being a connection to someone else is a two-way street; both parties should benefit. Moochers don’t seem to get that, so let them go. I know someone who sent a moocher a breakup email (true story) and surprise (not really)…the moocher was shocked. Don’t fall for it ladies.
The Jealous Jackie
ALERT! Jealous Jackies appear to be your friend, but deep down they really dislike you! You’re chasing and living your dreams while she is stuck and full of excuses. She wants to keep you at her level (or lower). She doesn’t celebrate with you. She doesn’t help you reach your goals. In fact, she might secretly be trying to sabotage you (ahem: making you late to meetings or maybe planning things for the both of you when she knows you should spending that time doing other things). Here are some other signs your “friend” may be jealous of you. In any case, let her go.
Disclaimer: This might sound a little harsh. It’s meant to, but in all seriousness, every situation is different. Make sure you assess yours, because like I said, everyone is valuable and in some situations, the relationship may be worth trying to salvage. In fact, the person may not even realize they are one of those people. AND be aware that it’s not always another woman. Men are just as guilty.
Personal Truth Moment: My Negative Nancy was my mom. It had gotten to a point where I had to tell her to stop calling me if she was going to be negative about what I was doing or if she was going to be negative about someone/something else. I told her I just didn’t have the time for it. She heard me and checked herself. It still crops up, but I realize now that it’s just in her nature. However, because I had that previous discussion with her, she’s not shocked when I check her on it. She knows that it’s something she has to work on and understands why I’m not trying to deal with it. Our relationship is a lot better for it.